You’ve met him – the guy of your dreams. He is sweet and funny and is not like any other person you’ve dated, so you decide to commit yourself to him. But over time, you find out that he isn’t who you thought he was.
Maybe it starts with him tearing you down verbally, but he always apologizes. You tell yourself that he is just stressed out, but at least he doesn’t hit you. Then one time when he is upset, it becomes physical. You are in shock, but he says it will never happen again and you love him, so you give him a second chance.
This story may sound familiar or it may not, but the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence states that 1 in 3 women have experienced some type of physical abuse over their lifetime. In this article, we will look at some warning signs of an abusive relationship. Our hope is that, with this knowledge, you can avoid entering a relationship with a potentially abusive person. At Lowcountry Pregnancy Center, we’re here to help you and give you support – contact us today.
Warning Signs of Abuse
There is no secret formula for determining if someone is an abusive individual or not. However, there are some signs that you can be aware of:
- An abusive person will come on strong and may push for commitment early into the relationship. They may use terms like “love at first sight,” and “made for each other”. They may push for instant intimacy and exclusivity.
- They may lavish you with gifts that seem inappropriate for the amount of time that you have been together, such as a romantic getaway that may seem to be more appropriate for a more mature relationship.
- An abusive individual may be overly sensitive. They might become easily insulted and have large reactions to normal day-to-day inconveniences. They may also exhibit intense mood swings or unpredictable behaviors.
- They might attempt to isolate you from your friends and family by being overly critical of your loved ones. An abuser will try to have you completely dependent on them.
- An abuser will attempt to be controlling. In the beginning, this may be difficult to spot, but be observant of how they are in their relationships. A controlling person may be overly upset about small indiscretions and become questioning in those situations.
- They may tend to be very jealous. They might begin to question your friendships or even accuse you of infidelity with friends.
- Threatening behavior can be a sign of an abusive person. They may threaten with harm or become aggressive during arguments. Aggressive behavior can be shoving, pushing, hitting, punching or any form of physical touch that is meant for harm. An abusive person may break items while upset.
While one or more of these signs don’t automatically make a person a potential abuser, it is important to be aware and diligent when it comes to your safety within a relationship. There are different types of abuse- physical, mental, or emotional. No matter what type of abuse you have experienced, you are not responsible or at fault if your partner has become violent or abusive.
What To Do Next
Abusive relationships aren’t just dangerous because of the abuser’s behavior. They can also be very difficult to get away from. One resource for anyone who feels like they may be in an abusive relationship is the National Domestic Violence Hotline. This free resource can offer advice and help to anyone in an abusive or dangerous relationship. Call 1-800-799-7233 to speak to someone today.
At Lowcountry Pregnancy Center, we are here to help with all aspects of your relationship and pregnancy. If you feel like you may be in an abusive relationship and need someone to talk to, please call us at (843) 553-3505. We can help you find assistance, listen to your story, and provide advice. Call now to schedule your appointment. All services are free and confidential.